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Slut or Virgin?
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...Yes?
Drunk sluts are one of the biggest turn-offs for me (along with a billion other things, as my standards are far too high, and I'm far too insecure about myself to even attempt to find the "right" person for me, but oh well)...
Last semester, I was living with a girl who went out and normally got drunk at least 1-3 times a week, and came back with a different guy almost every time. I would HATE to ever lose my virginity to anyone like this (female or male). Knowing my luck, if I did ever go for someone like this, I'ld pull down her trousers to find a blue waffle hanging out the sides of her knickers!
Having said that, I also wouldn't really like to lose it to another virgin either, as I'ld at least prefer it if she/he knew what they/I was actually doing!
So, I'll go for option C.
Lofty
CF Legend
It depends what you want really, most of the points people have been making are great. This is how I work:
If I (or the said person in a relationship with me) is together, then no, I don't like either being a 'slut' or sleeping around because not being faithful isn't nice, having it been done to me in the past, I can safely say I don't want it happening again.
But, if you're single and ready to mingle, then why not, you only live once, sleep with who you want, when you want, where you want in what position you want. I'll admit it, if I'm not in a relationship, I do it. It's great. It's what makes the world go around (ok, I'm joking about this, but it get's my point across).
Also, the whole "Slut" thing, it could be taken offensively, well, not from me, if I was called a slut, I'd be well made up, at least it means you CAN actually get someone..
If I (or the said person in a relationship with me) is together, then no, I don't like either being a 'slut' or sleeping around because not being faithful isn't nice, having it been done to me in the past, I can safely say I don't want it happening again.
But, if you're single and ready to mingle, then why not, you only live once, sleep with who you want, when you want, where you want in what position you want. I'll admit it, if I'm not in a relationship, I do it. It's great. It's what makes the world go around (ok, I'm joking about this, but it get's my point across).
Also, the whole "Slut" thing, it could be taken offensively, well, not from me, if I was called a slut, I'd be well made up, at least it means you CAN actually get someone..
CMonster
Giga Poster
You might call me inexperienced, or young, or whatever, and that's okay, cause it's true.
But, I personally believe that sex is something that's sacred and shouldn't really be taken lightly. Likewise, I'm with Neal about the whole dating thing. Although it is definitely necessary to have a couple of "casual" dates to get to know a person better, once you get past casual dating and start getting serious, you should want to be in a long-lasting relationship with the person, with the ultimate goal of staying with them forever.
Yes, sex feels good (not that I know :roll: ), but I think that doing it with someone who you are in a serious, long-lasting relationship with would greatly enhance the experience and the... I don't know, meaning of it I guess. I'd get so much more out of having sex with my wife than with someone you've just recently met.
As to the question, I'd go for the virgin, as I want to remain a virgin until marriage. I know it seems unreasonable in today's world, but again, I believe that it would be so much more meaningful if both my wife and I were virgins (even if it isn't the best sex).
But, I personally believe that sex is something that's sacred and shouldn't really be taken lightly. Likewise, I'm with Neal about the whole dating thing. Although it is definitely necessary to have a couple of "casual" dates to get to know a person better, once you get past casual dating and start getting serious, you should want to be in a long-lasting relationship with the person, with the ultimate goal of staying with them forever.
Yes, sex feels good (not that I know :roll: ), but I think that doing it with someone who you are in a serious, long-lasting relationship with would greatly enhance the experience and the... I don't know, meaning of it I guess. I'd get so much more out of having sex with my wife than with someone you've just recently met.
As to the question, I'd go for the virgin, as I want to remain a virgin until marriage. I know it seems unreasonable in today's world, but again, I believe that it would be so much more meaningful if both my wife and I were virgins (even if it isn't the best sex).
Lofty
CF Legend
^ To be blatantly honest, sex is over rated. It's not as mind blowing as people make out.
I understand where you're coming from, I really respect you for that, especially how you would like to remain a virgin until marriage, that's pretty refreshing in this day and age. Thing is, having sex with someone you've only just met, is quite thrilling. It has it's good points and bad. Good being, it has this chemistry and spark straight away, It's hard to explain, I'm sure people who've done it will understand what I mean. It's kinda the whole 'Mysterious and unknown other person'. Although, this is also the downfall, in this day and age, because of people sleeping around, you don't know who's caught what, I know this is blatantly harsh, but it's true. Also, saying to the person, "Wait a minute, you've not got crabs have you?", Kinda spoils the atmosphere... :lol:
I understand where you're coming from, I really respect you for that, especially how you would like to remain a virgin until marriage, that's pretty refreshing in this day and age. Thing is, having sex with someone you've only just met, is quite thrilling. It has it's good points and bad. Good being, it has this chemistry and spark straight away, It's hard to explain, I'm sure people who've done it will understand what I mean. It's kinda the whole 'Mysterious and unknown other person'. Although, this is also the downfall, in this day and age, because of people sleeping around, you don't know who's caught what, I know this is blatantly harsh, but it's true. Also, saying to the person, "Wait a minute, you've not got crabs have you?", Kinda spoils the atmosphere... :lol:
Hahaha, going to have to disagree with you there! Maybe you've not met the right slut yet!-lofty- said:
So much confusion in this topic, so I'll sum up my feelings.
A "slut" tends to be more outgoing and less uptight. I find people who outgoing and not uptight to be better company. Therefore I'd take the "slut".
Will
Strata Poster
... While the other side seem intent on justifying their hollow pursuit of [drunken] physical gratification with the 'If it feels good, do it' argument, and since my 'crusade' lacks the altruistic slant A-Kid's attempted to put on it, there's not a lot I can do but agree to disagree. Again.
However - my ****ing turn to sum up. First kiss. First hand-holding (retrospectively speaking, that's a pathetic example, but you can see what I'm getting at). First 'I love you' (Yes, the rules of In Vino Veritas still apply!) and the first time you wake up next to someone, and think 'There is nothing I would change about this moment. Not for anything' as opposed to 'Haha, last night clearly went well then, but THIS is awkward...' All worlds ahead of first sexual encounters. And if that means I need to grow up, then I only hope I never ****ing do.
And now this topic's got nicely personal, any chance of euthanising it?
EDIT: Yes, my original opening was childish to the point of undermining any points I may or may not have made. Sorry, I'm feeling a bit cranky this week :evil:
However - my ****ing turn to sum up. First kiss. First hand-holding (retrospectively speaking, that's a pathetic example, but you can see what I'm getting at). First 'I love you' (Yes, the rules of In Vino Veritas still apply!) and the first time you wake up next to someone, and think 'There is nothing I would change about this moment. Not for anything' as opposed to 'Haha, last night clearly went well then, but THIS is awkward...' All worlds ahead of first sexual encounters. And if that means I need to grow up, then I only hope I never ****ing do.
And now this topic's got nicely personal, any chance of euthanising it?
EDIT: Yes, my original opening was childish to the point of undermining any points I may or may not have made. Sorry, I'm feeling a bit cranky this week :evil:
At the chance of making you out to be hypocritical Will, when you were first offered the opportunity to experience sexual gratification under the "slut" category (offence fully intended ), you jumped at it.
It's only due to hindsight of the poor position of hurt it left you in that you've suddenly decided your morality needs to be out of the muddy waters... As it was getting personal and all that...
), you jumped at it.It's only due to hindsight of the poor position of hurt it left you in that you've suddenly decided your morality needs to be out of the muddy waters... As it was getting personal and all that...
Jake
Strata Poster
Hmm. Sluts are harder to impress if it's a one night stand, whereas if they've still got their V plates they don't know any better.
However, Virgins are more likely to be all clingy afterwards (at least the slag would have a similar mind set to you).
Relationship wise, the Virgin would probably stay with you (you're the first, the only, blah blah), but you'd always have it in the back of your mind that it'dd be completely different if you hadn't taken their virginity.
You can never trust a massive slut, paticularly in the gay scene. Not just because they might cheat, but, I don't want HIV thanks.
So i'd say, choose the virgin for a one night stand, then give them a year or so to play the field, then eventually end up in a relationship knowing that they've had it elsewhere and chose you.
Unlikely, but it would be fab <3.
However, Virgins are more likely to be all clingy afterwards (at least the slag would have a similar mind set to you).
Relationship wise, the Virgin would probably stay with you (you're the first, the only, blah blah), but you'd always have it in the back of your mind that it'dd be completely different if you hadn't taken their virginity.
You can never trust a massive slut, paticularly in the gay scene. Not just because they might cheat, but, I don't want HIV thanks.
So i'd say, choose the virgin for a one night stand, then give them a year or so to play the field, then eventually end up in a relationship knowing that they've had it elsewhere and chose you.
Unlikely, but it would be fab <3.
OfficialAltonTowers
Roller Poster
tomahawKSU said:
Says it all :lol:
LiveForTheLaunch
CF Legend
No, Lofty.
As for me, someone in between. My nickname with a few members is slut (Brad), but I'm not actually one, really. I went through a phase where I jumped on everything that moved, but it was unsafe half the time and in the end just caused problems and was upsetting. All of my entire two relationships however, have spawned from random sex-times though, so I'm with whoever said "do the one night stand and if it evolves into something more, then it does, and if it doesn't, then so be it."
I don't hate on anyone who finds it "sacred" but aren't you guys worried about not having any experience and absolutely embarassing yourself if you happen to marry an "experienced" person?
ciallkennett
Strata Poster
I was waiting for you to post, Taylor
Anyway, to add further to the topic, if I could I would go out and get laid as much as possible, however, that isn't me - I'm too much of a gent and I that would make me feel very un-gentleman-like. And I'm waiting to lose mine to somebody who I am in a relationship with and trust very dearly...but after that, well, I'ma try and get as much as possible!
Anyway, to add further to the topic, if I could I would go out and get laid as much as possible, however, that isn't me - I'm too much of a gent and I that would make me feel very un-gentleman-like. And I'm waiting to lose mine to somebody who I am in a relationship with and trust very dearly...but after that, well, I'ma try and get as much as possible!